Dear Sabrina, ( A letter from a suicide survivor)

 

Dear Sabrina,

Your death has changed a lot for so many of us but I can only speak for myself. It hurts to know that I can’t see you again. It’s strange really knowing that you are no longer a phone call or a drive away. It’s been over a year and It still hurts. Although maybe not as intense as before, I know this sadness will forever be here. I wish you would have shared your pain with me. I wish I could have shined that light for you like I have done for so many moms. But, had we not lose you, I probably would never have had the courage to do so.

When I found out what happened, I was numb. I remember sitting there by my vanity with no thought in the world. I don’t know how I made it to work that day. I felt the anger but I also felt empathy. I’ve always been the sensitive kind, I too have struggled with depression but it I didn’t really deal with it as a child. However, I felt instant empathy for you. The darkness I knew you must have felt but overwhelming. I felt severe sadness. Why?! Why GOD!? Why did you let this happen?! How could you have let this happen?! I felt sadness for myself, your family, and most of all your daughters. I thought, “They will go on without their mother!” That was when I held my daughter tighter that night.

Then, I felt guilty. I should have seen the signs. I should have called you more. Why didn’t I just call you? Why? Why didn’t I just come over to keep you company? Why?

It was the guilt and the stress of becoming a mother of two when my own postpartum depression sank in. Is this how you felt? Oh, Lord! This is painful! Is this how you felt before you died!? I am scared, I don’t want to die but I want the pain to go away. I can’t handle this pain. My family doesn’t deserve to deal with my mess. Knowing how you must have felt was so overwhelming. Knowing the pain. This pain is something I would never wish upon anyone and to know how my best friend felt? It was even more painful!

It was around the time I decided to start healing when I realized how much you’ve changed me. Sometimes, I feel like you’ve passed your empathy down to me. I walk through life a lot slower, I remember to feel my emotions and most of all, I show so much more grace to others. That was something you’ve taught me. That, you may never know what that stranger is going through and how just a smile can make their day so much brighter!

I miss you, my friend but I know you’re watching over me. You’re watching over all of us. I know you see me, especially when the pain gets so heavy, I know you’re there.

I love you forever,

Diana Collins

 

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